The U.S. Surgeon General highlights the loneliness many parents face and offers three tips to help combat this growing issue.
Murthy’s advisory came out on August 28, and he stressed the need for parents to connect with each other. He mentioned that over half of parents feel lonely, which makes parenting even tougher. He believes that creating spaces for parents to share experiences and support one another can really help. After all, caregivers need care too! By working together with community groups, schools, and even employers, we can build a supportive network for parents.
A recent survey from Ohio State University found that two-thirds of parents often feel lonely. About 62% said they feel overwhelmed by their responsibilities, and nearly 40% don’t have anyone to lean on for support. It’s clear that many parents are looking for ways to connect with others outside their usual circles.
Kate Gawlik, who led the survey, is a mom of four and wanted to understand the link between loneliness and burnout. She explained that when parents feel like they’re drowning, it can lead to feeling detached from their kids and doubting their parenting skills. It’s a tough cycle that can be hard to break.
Parents with young kids often feel stuck at home, making it harder to meet new people. Gawlik pointed out that in other countries, there’s more of a community support system, which isn’t as strong in the U.S. This lack of support can really add to the stress. Plus, the pandemic didn’t help either. Many parents lost their social connections during COVID and haven’t been able to rebuild them.
To tackle loneliness, Gawlik suggests that parents should try to connect with others. It might feel like just another task on an already full plate, but making new friends can really lighten the load. She recommends reaching out to old friends or joining activities that interest you, like a workout class or chatting with other parents at the park.
If in-person connections are tough, online communities can be a great alternative. While social media has its downsides, it can also help people find support and connection when they need it most.
It’s also important for parents to remember that this phase of life won’t last forever. There will be times when making friends is easier, especially as kids grow and join new activities. Gawlik encourages parents to stay open to new opportunities for connection.
Lastly, while surveys can help parents feel understood, they can also create pressure. It’s essential to remember that everyone’s experience is unique. For instance, some parents might have a strong support system, while others might feel more isolated. The key is to empower yourself to seek out community and support when you need it.